We need more articles on the need to walk away from BP people OR articles for BP people to learn to manage/handle ‘rage’ and ‘distance’. It negatively impacts friendships and romantic relationships. She doesn't like it since it triggers her. - Breaking Bipolar. Well Obviously I had major reservations, and knew I could not take all of this on, it was not safe. Seriously, it's like reading my past. If you are in a relationship with a bipolar remember you only live once. Laurie of San Antonio, Texas remembers the exhaustion of caring for her husband and longing for the day when “someone would take care of me instead of the other way around.” I've not told her this because she's under enough stress, but like i said, the ghosting is eating me alive. She has been untreated bipolar abs an eating disorder. They agree to get into a relationship, the other person relies on them and the behavior when they leave treats the other person like a discarded piece of trash. Many people with bipolar disorder have happy, successful marriages. That’s exactly how I feel. - Natasha Tracy Identifying the root cause of the problem helps over here to understand their unruly behavior. I decided I am not going to ever call him again. I called too much, I text something he didn’t like. He also has had a lot of past trauma and has PTSD. ), doctors, etc, never seemed to care about the effects of her behavior on loved ones. That I should learn to “handle him” better. So she broke up with me and told me I can't give her what she needs. You ha e a right to be angry. I don’t know how you can be coping still seeing her at work talking and laughing with everyone else and just ignoring you. The associating “Ghosting” with bipolar. I told him that was fine just so long as he keeps me informed he agreed but that was the last time i saw him. Your story resonates so much with me. I didn’t realize the extent of this problem until I saw the number of comments on my recent YouTube video, "Ghosting and Bipolar Disorder: Why We Do It". I don't know. The best thing to do in my case is to "apologize" and act like she understands why I'm angry and that it won't happen again, and then after I've calmed down and am no longer upset at all, we talk about the situation more realistically. So this is how I get through my bipolar life. Then she went silent again for two weeks and blocked again! Ghosting is done by many of us living with bipolar disorder, especially during bipolar depressive episodes. I try to visit the city time to time and he also visited me. She has also ghosted me when I see her at the gym. I want to reach out and suggest that she talk to her doctor about psychosis but I’m afraid she’ll follow through with her threats and call the police. We started going to apartment viewing, while also trying on ring styles/sizes, etc. She was calling me any time I wasn’t with her and made me feel needed. Marriage is not a game or competition where one partner always wins. I am waiting for your advice. Not everyone does this, it actually further perpetuates the stigma to say that people with Bipolar disorder ghost people, people shouldn't use their diagnosis to excuse themselves for being a coward. Even if you're frustrated with your husband, try to appreciate the good he does. My son is bipolar. “ due to crazy stuff and busy “ not as a couple he did it again... made plans with me of coming over to see me and then he’s been ghosting me for four days now . Hello! To ignore, tells them it’s okay to rage. Then disappears. Hi Anna, “Holding back your anger will only improve your relationship over a period of time. Do not decide you are going to “take care of the problem” yourself by cleaning out the house or giving away the animals. Most of them were deserved in fact but that does not mean they should have been said. This article opened my eyes. Kim.. is there an email I can reach you at? One day they are a part of your life, and the next day they disappear from it without warning. I have been seeing my boyfriend since July of 2019 so for about 7 to 8 months now and he informed me he has bipolar on our second date. You're right, the line is fine. I am hear heartbroken. In reply to Gone thro' the matter. Nothing works. In the case of bipolar disorder, these periods of illness may be only temporary and, we hope, short lived. He sounded like he was having a great week. Over the years, I have realized that regardless of what is going on in my life, ghosting is hurtful to another person. We were in agreement and she said she’d start looking for a new place. Remember, you do not want to fight with your partner; you want to fight with the disease that is causing the problem in your relationship, which is why you should not engage with your partner when his/her temper is at its boiling point. I don’t believe she will ever realize any of this on her own and I’ve most likely been ghosted for life. A month and a half passed by,best month of my life,but she would eventually have to move back to North Carolina with her parents only for 4 months since she was having financial issues in keeping her apartment. Do not ignore the good. I also have bipolar disorder (II). I’m pretty sure she would’ve treated me just like that if she’d stayed working where I work. And he asked me out. I… by Anonymous (not verified). My job has me multitasking for over 400 employees I have to interact with all day. I really love him and enjoy when he isn’t ghosting and take my marital vows seriously and hate to give up on a sick spouse but how do I tell the difference between ghosting because of illness and ghosting to play games ? In the city where he lives, my family also lives. As per usual a cavalier disregard for the welfare of the non-bipolar in the relationship. It's needed to settle down or because you don't want them to see you like that. When we were together he would often go radio silence off and on and dissapear for days or hours or weeks at a time and ghost but would always reappear . And I said NO, why would I ? He didn’t tell us he was leaving just walked out and said he was never happy and told us to keep or donate all his stuff and he would take two suitcases only and he ghosted us . We eventually talked and the call went past an hour,she said the timer didnt matter now,because she was enjoying the phone call. So idk what to do or if he even wants to be with me. It's normal for everyone to get upset from time to time. I don’t know what to do, I just love him too much. You don’t deserve the hurt she will put you through. I need help I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl who's younger than I am .. she is not diagnosed but we've been together long enough to know she is bipolar.. also she mentioned to me at the start she might have bipolar.. So I checked with some mutual friends and that’s how I found out she was still posting here and there mainly about her kids. He said her that he hadn’t wanted to see anybody, even his best friend. 3. I'm just so torn that he's selfish enough to not even recognize the mental stress he's putting me through. At the time it felt good though, poetic somehow, for me to just disappear. After a short time, she always would come back. An open mind to different methods of dealing with the person suffering from bipolar is much more helpful. Now, unfortunately, this can take from a couple days to a couple weeks." only time will tell. Bipolar disorder and ghosting is a big problem. He says he doesn’t mean to ghost but doesn’t know what to say .. Is this typical of bipolar ghosting or is this simply playing games how do I tell the difference ? The advice to ignore or step back does not work with my wife. She had been making promises about always being my girl and saying how well I treated her compared to guys she had seen in the past. In mental-health, you need to know your triggers/boundaries/balances.. it’s critical! So now I have become very self aware and as soon as negative thoughts come I distract myself. By the end of that (can’t even call it a fight or disagreement) I told her thanks for clarifying and moved on to the next subject... then she blocked me off her phone, then I noticed she blocked me on fb! At this point i have no idea what to do. You’re not in this alone, it takes two to manage this illness. But things had been going well until the coronavirus put her working from home for six weeks. I'm so tired of excusing his behaviours and being stuck on what's acceptable and what's not. As the loving partner of someone experiencing bipolar disorder, your life will take on a new “normal”—which could possibly consist of taking on increased daily responsibilities. ~ Katia, YouTube commenter. Yeah and don't take any of it personally, it's not about you it's what is happening to her mind. My best friend who is BP2 just ghosted me. We’ve only been married a year and I’m disconnected from him due to bipolar. This time he hasn’t shown back in our town for 2.5 years. It’s definitely the Bipolar. So I wanted time with this person to see how his bipolar played out, reasonable request. When in the depressed stage, and someone is distant, and ignores people. "I do this a lot. The man I love keeps ghosting me. I see it as protecting friends from me dragging them down to my level. This is not a stable person, so I knew I had to end it, however he did before me. She didn’t formally break up with me and the last I heard from her we had a wonderful future ahead of us, then nothing. Help! I had been dating a nice guy with bipolar disorder for a year. It's needed to settle down or because you don't want them to see you like that. If you are always bringing the past, it means you are punishing your partner repeatedly. When he does, we tend to argue more.. and I would try to avoid these arguments as much as I can, given that he's not listening or trying to speak loudly and overlapping me. This was devastating for me to hear because he had always been able to do and spend however he likes/wants. After recovery,I made an attempt to contact her,and she finally agreed to give me closure,but she made rules beforehand that I would have to agree on:Timed phone call, she put an alarm to give me only 45minutes and then she would hang up. I work and he is on disability now and I am so afraid that if I file for divorce he will either hurt himself, hurt me and/or the kids or I won’t get full custody and then I fear what happens when I am not around. I… by Anonymous (not verified). She told me that we didn’t have any such conversation. So she turned not just the future but the past to ashes and did everything she could to destroy my self-image and worth. In the meantime, the damage was done to my mom, my 3 sisters and myself. I told her we’d live like this for a few years and then when the children are older, I would marry her. Unfortunately, I am currently going through the same thing. Seems to help! I hope this helps. I thought he might be playing games but as he is in lock down for the pandemic I am not sure what he can do. But also worried. Unfortunately, sometimes we're even ghosting our family members. I give myself a reality check. So 2 days ago, I decided to reach out to him to see if he was ready to talk and he said he was. My thought life is a large part of my recovery along with the meds. It says, you mean nothing to me and never did, not even as a human being let alone somebody I at least said I loved. I would’ve felt even worse than I did when she just left and blocked my number I reckon. Bipolar Disorder and Ghosting: It's a Big Problem, HealthyPlace. But that day I ran across him at our common friend’s bar. I believe she also deals with bipolar psychosis or bipolar with “features.” I don’t think she’s aware of the psychosis aspect of the disorder and that she suffers from this. I was in a relationship with a woman who has bipolar. You would find out everything you could if your partner had a physical illness, that’s what you need to do with bipolar disorder. I texted her and asked if I could bring her mail to her. This has happen 5 times and he eventually comes home. She was diagnosed BPD-1 about 20 years ago. Accept that the angry worlds are detrimental to the nonbipolar’s members health and mental state. When it was time to pack and move her belongings she said she was too overwhelmed. Doesn't make it ok but just put it out there and wait it out. In 2017 he ghosted us for 2 years. 24 years of that then she divorced him. He’s on two medications and tells his doctor everything is just fine, yet it’s not, and he won’t go for counseling because he says his insurance doesn’t cover that… I barely have time at the end of the day to check on that, because of his unpredictable moods. In reply to I have been seeing my… by Anonymous (not verified). In reply to Hi all, Hi, mine is using olanzapine 20mg daily, guess he is bipolar. My bipolar husband went off all his meds and the urging of his family and left me and the kids two and a half years ago after 12 years of marriage and went to live with his mom . Why? We’ve all been divorced and I’m on my 3rd marriage and he’s got bipolar. I told him finally? Well as time passed I began to see some behaviors that were strange, child like behavior, like making boy noises and turning objects at the dinner table into animals, giddy behavior, constant immature joking, and other more risky talk constantly. After that arguement she said "look you're annoying and I don't want to deal with you at the end of my day - fuck,look I'm just going to smoke some weed and watch some animie and cool off,I'll call you after. This hurt very much. We need to stop devaluing the non-bipolar member. 14. He’s not physically abusive, but his rages send me into panic mode. My boyfriend has ghosted me a few time now, anywhere from 2 days to 7days. Its been over 2 months since i heard anything from her. In reply to Do bp ghosters ever come… by Anonymous (not verified), HI Ann, I don't have this answer I to am waiting to see of someone with BP response. It's not just hard to say "this is what's going on" - as a couple people above have explained. Once she moved,we talked for almost a month doing facetime etc. "When I feel like isolating, I "check on" the people around me, my friends in recovery. Bipolar Disorder cannot be cured but it can be treated and to some degree controlled with medication, counseling and good self care. Retrieved He was with his best friend. So he said YES together and seriously committed. You can also find Hannah on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Step 1 and 2 of what to do when your husband ignores you. GIRL!!! None of us have a choice over our moods we do however choose how we treat people and it's honestly a little saddening to hear the amount of people either using this as an excuse for their own bad behaviour or others using their diagnosis as a way to understand it. Her mind creates alternate realities and delusions. Holding back my own anger was not the way to deal with things. My ex, who's getting well with depression and very positive about her progress, left me since I have bipolar 2 and I isolate myself every once in a while. The last thing she said to me is that maybe we could have some sort of relationship someday. Married for 2 years and together for 10 years. On days when my husband is calm, he’s great, on the days when he’s raging, his eyes get black and his face is expressionless or angry. Its driving me insane at this point. It’s not going to get better or easier. The truth is, the medical industry has been terribly ineffective when it comes to bipolar. But to go completely off the grid and not tell anyone puts everyone you love in a difficult position and can lead to getting police involved if it goes on for too long. In my mind, I don't stop loving them or care for them. From seeing her every day most of the day to just gone. Site last updated December 18, 2020. I was shocked and didn’t know what to do. Don’t know if it was a gift knowing her or not. It’s not your fault and it’s not his. It is very painful to have the woman I love go from a bright future together to all of this with no contact in 9 months with not so much as an explanation. Hi all, He told me this wasn't going to work out and that the last 3 weeks, he was able to spend all that he wanted and do things whenever he wanted. Jack, please feel feee to email me colin.lowth2@mail.dcu.ie.... I’ve had a v similar experience, In reply to Jack, please feel feee to… by Anonymous (not verified). After one day,we got into an unnecessary arguement,she claimed I was guilt tripping her by saying "its says you're online babe, i guess you're still mad because you haven't replied,feelsbadman" the only reason I said that was because earlier she was mad that I had waken up really late in the day. I have tried ignoring him, arguing with him, leaving. I have to disagree with the part that says, "you will surely see success with this method". Ghosting is a contemporary term used for when a person completely cuts off all communication with a friend or romantic partner by not responding to texts, ignoring calls and acting as if the person no longer exists. I also avoid triggers as best I can, go to sleep the same time every night with very few exceptions, don't drink alcohol (especially a bad thing with meds & not good for bipolar anyway), and control my thought life. I'm in the process of trying to figure out, how do we know this is the end or another episode? I should also add there are different types of bipolar, in Bipolar I I've seen people start using drugs and become very sexually active and manic that way, bipolar II is more irritable, angry and depressed and stuff. I have never ghosted anyone and wouldn't want someone to do that to me, I like to know whether bipolar disorder can be cured with medication, counseling and proper homecare. It’s only once you become aware about this condition, you will gain compassion towards your partner’s emotion, thus giving him the space and support that he/she badly needs from you. trustworthy health. About two months ago,my ex girlfriend had bipolar 2..and I met her when she was going through hypomania. Then rude comments about how I look but when confronted could not understand how that would hurt me, then continued to beg me to marry him and tell me how much he loved me. "I’m guilty of this when I’m hypomanic and in a negative mood and I’m super sensitive and I get easily hurt or angry at people and instead of confronting them, I just ghost them when they try to contact me." 2020 HealthyPlace Inc. All Rights Reserved. ~ Claire, YouTube commenter. What to do when bipolar partner ignores you Stock Status: This site complies with the HONcode standard for Ex: Early-Childhood Neglect, abuses etc. We talked about how the best thing for the children would be for us to live in separate households. I have bipolar disorder, and I have extremely terrible outbursts on occasion. In reply to My bipolar husband went off… by Anonymous (not verified). I called him, texted him and he GHOSTED again. We were planning to marry, then he told me that he doesn’t want. When you love someone with bipolar, you have to stop listening to the "shoulds," and think about what really IS and what works for you. I tried and tried. Truth be told I’m super hurt I struggle with my own issues (anxiety and PMMD) that take their toll on me and I really don’t need this either. I'll probably do my own post about this in the future. Start smoking weed (he never smokes weed) and started drinking all weekend. For what exactly I don’t know ♀️ we’ve literally had actual fights in the past and just give each other time, but this time she just blocked me from her life. ~Xoxofmw, YouTube commenter. It’s like she doesn’t recognize me. An Introduction to Benzodiazepines and Benzodiazepine Addiction, https://www.healthguidance.org/Terms-of-Service. Two months ago I came to the city where he lives and I called him but he suddenly GHOSTED. As the move was nearing completion, I was dropping a few things off and noticed that she hadn’t been to bed in many days and was manic. Alex, I’m happy that you and your partner have found ways around your illness obstacles. There are countless resources—books, videos, support groups, etc.—that address and reduce the mystery and misunderstanding surrounding bipolar disorder. My mother would threaten to kill herself in front of us kids. This hurts the ones you love more than being angry with them. All this will do is make youfeel pathetic and make you appear to be needy. "I just lost a friend who deals with bipolar. It actually caused me to go into depression and just want to give up and wish it would all end. I feel trapped and have no idea how to move forward. When I break up with someone I try to if not appropriate to help them through it, at least ease the sting, not do everything I can to rub salt in the wound and hurt them even further. She made it clear that she didnt love me anymore midway through our relationship, but I was confused because she had been leaving me lovely voicemails and expressed her love to me a few days before she ghosted..I didnt understand. It's 100% selfish. Sorry your going through this. We don’t need to deal with bipolar men. Ok. I checked in periodically and the threats started coming from her girlfriend. What you can do. he stays in the house staring and crying a lot and I am afraid. Something went wrong. People need accountability, we can't act anyway we want and trample others, Obviously he did not act like this in the beginning or I would have walked so if behavior at times can be controlled in the beginning what happened. The more I focus on the negative things about myself and/or situations the worse I get. Then out of nowhere texts me we won’t be talking any more. A week before that he had made plans and disappeared and ghosted me . Then I caught him flirting with women on FB, caught him in several lies. 2 months later this issue, he broke up with me and wanted to remain as friends. This 3 days turned into 1 week, then 2 weeks, then 3 weeks and now a month. Anyway I think it sounds like your girl is also a very cold person.. possibly capable of feeling loved and enjoying being loved but just not able to feel love so can only hurt people in the end. IT IS NOT OK TO BE ABUSED BECAUSE YOUR PARTNER HAS A MENTAL DISORDER. Thanks Tony! She tried to get me to ask her to stay at every step in the process but I held firm. Bipolar disorder and ghosting is a big problem. 4 days later she ghosted me, now in the past she had told me about a traumatic event but was very vaig in what happen I had just asked her if she was ok and here if she wanted to talk about it All rights reserved. Im knew to all this but I’m 100% committed to learn more about this mental illness. #3 You’re too smart to have bipolar disorder. Loved ones are asked to live a life on eggshells and nobody seems to care about them and the fact they are suffering — as long as the bipolar person gets through another day at therapy. Somehow it’s always my fault! thanks for any advise. I requested to our common friend to ask him what was happening. It doesn't matter whether it's someone we're dating or friends with. Everyone needs support. It is exactly what my husband has been doing all the time. 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