I know i have a tough life ahead . Posts: 19 Threads: 6 Joined: 2012 Apr Reputation: 0 #1. It was there during an inpatient stay that she was diagnosed with Bipolar I and Complex PTST (previous abusive husband). Your third paragraph was so dense that it was hard for me to read. thanks everyone for all the advice. Coping with a Bipolar Husband Is a Family Affair. Tips for living with a bipolar husband? Hi Oliveira, I value your comments; they're very straightforward. He has a rough time getting moving in the mornings and his head cleared. Hello BlueFlower thanks for your comments. Manic Depressive if you will: an illness that has invaded my life. It's a safe forum where you can create or participate in support groups and discussions about health topics that interest you. My husband has been on medication now and out of the hospital for a year and a half and I moved to our capital city to support him and for him to continue to get the help he needs. but sometimes life gets very frustrated . This combined with seeing something on TV and then doing some research and a questionnaire on the web led us to the a psychologist, the doctor and then finally a psychiatrist to confirm the diagnosis. Does that make sense? he says that he can fly planes , treat patients , he is getting into high risk behaviors with borrowing lots of money. You said that your Husband finally got help and a diagnosis several years ago. There have been moments (okay few and far between) but moments where he will even catch himself in the middle, stop, and say - wow...I'm overreacting here. Shouldn't he learn to OWN it. Hi to everyone here. I think it would be helpful if it was also someone who had a similar level of the BP that they are dealing with. We behave based on what we feel, not necessarily what we know is right or wrong. I am the bipolar husband. If I only had one child to contend with on my own. Here are a few simple relationship tips & ideas to keep you and your sweetheart in synch when living with bipolar … jersey cherries, btw, if you husband is willing, I would love to chat with him too. thanks for all the help and advice . The man I married I only live with part time, and I miss him terribly. dkramarczyk Junior Member. and i think that bp is perment. I live with a partner who has depression and bipolar disorder. how did you all manage . I have just found this forum and was really interested to read others stories, issues and problems. The bottom line is you have to decide if you want this in your life. It is not a support group for friends and family of bipolar disorder. i think my husband has bipolar disorder . This forum is a safe, anonymous environment for people with bipolar disorder to freely discuss their struggles and symptoms. i totaly understand everything you have said, and agree that it is very frustrating for you, and all the spouses of bipolar. It’s possible to have a healthy, happy relationship with someone living with bipolar disorder. Which I did calmly and respectfully.) My happiness in someways takes a back seat until they are grown. today he is bit normal , not like last week . He is still the loving husband and loving father that we know, just every once in a while his brain doesn t work right. If you quit now because of your husband, you will always regret it, and eventually blame him. I have lived with him for 29 years and have 4 children. Significant Others, Family & Friends Forum, http://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-of ... y/00011992. I have never denied him the right to his feelings - however that perhaps the feelings feel bigger to him because of the BP and therefore he needs to be responsible when he overreacts (like this) - that's all. Being involved in a bipolar marriage can be one of the toughest challenges for a loving relationship. oh and i do understand i can't get diagnosis here. Try these tips for coping with the inevitable mood swings. he talks and acts like he has supernatural powers . Serafena and Stressed In Bama, thank you for your input, it is ALL enromously helpful. I am also NOT young like you. With a bipolar husband in the family, sometimes avoidance is easier than communicating. But somehow deep inside me i feel if i persist in helping him get help, things will get better and our marriage will get stronger. Living with someone who suffers from bipolar disorder presents a set of problems all its own. On the occassion I might be PMSing I have to own that, don't I? Just yesterday when he was cool and all i spoke to him about getting marriage counselling together and he said he may be ok with the idea. I take my meds, still learning how to manage triggers and meet with a counselor weekly. Don't know if this is any help but hon you are not alone. It is too lonely, tiring of the same crap and painful on a regular basis. It was a few days before Thanksgiving in 2007. To 'Loving Frustrated Wife' I can honestly say that until your hubbie acknowledges these things and accepts that even on medication he is never going to be totally 'normal' (sorry to use this word, I hate categorising people in this way but you will know what I mean by this). There are groups for this at other sites: They are more the implode style. I need support via an e-mail buddy who is in a similar situation striving for success in their relationship too, or advise from those who have been there and succeeded in resolving or finding solutions. I am certainly not looking to bust up the family over it. However, he has only been 'diagnosed' as bipolar type 1 2 years ago now. That's all. As spouses of Bp loved ones, we have to make a choice. It happens over and over and over on a regular basis. Love, or no love, that I feel for my husband. i am married for 6 yrs now . So this converstaion turned into the results I started with. In a recent NAMI meeting I attended, the parents of children with bipolar disorder shared their experiences with the sudden changes in behavior that make each day, week and month a challenge. He doesn't acknowledge what this must be like for me - to live with a BP at ALL. I don't want to live with a person who is not responsible fully for their own problems. To make a long story short, I am newly married and also have a husband that has BP. As the man with bipolar in a marriage and partnership of 24 years, I must say that getting medical help, learning as much as possible about my condition, and carefully attending to my wellness activities( proper sleep, moderation, medications, practicing my mental health techniques), has greatly diminished the harms I cause to my partner, my life, and friendships. BUT the main thing for both of us what that he finally acknowledged that he suffered from the disorder and that a lot of the problems we had suffered in life with people, reactions to things, losing his temper etc. 10 Tips for Coping With a Bipolar Spouse. My husband and I have been together for nearly seven years. I have to live with my husband, who has bipolar, and it is quite a struggle most of the time. For these reasons, optimal treatment consists of a combination of medication, therapy, and spiritual support. 10 Tips for Coping With a Bipolar Spouse. Learn more about bipolar disorder and relationships by reading our relationship blogs. But it did and of course I was the one blamed for it and am being "punished" for it. I see what I missed now, Loving, that you intimated too that being a man makes it harder for your husband to have the BP, that admitting to the illness is somehow emasculating. You then married quick and added to the mix by the pregnancy. I decided to jump over to this thread, since its getting many replies. Hi, I posted here quite sometime ago when my husband was first diagnosed with Bipolar 1 and I was just struggling so much. My family thinks there's no point giving him any more chance. but maybe in 2 years , when i graduate i will be able to manage things little better . I blame myself (again -- a female tendency, I'd guess.). Here are techniques for coping with bipolar spouses. It makes me love him all the more when he does this and I know in those moments I can continue on. I have just found this forum and was really interested to read others stories, issues and problems. And welcome Serafina. jerseycherries, BTW - one last thing...I don't want you to think I blame my husband for these issues. I have manic highs and lows but do not notice when I’m high. Over the years he has cheated on me on many occasions, blaming me for not satisfying him sexually. But I do, and I, by having chosen to have them, have a responsibility to do EVERYTHING I can to keep all my kids family together. Thanks to everyone who joined us on the Bipolar and Pregnancy webinar on 12 November. and if im denied i'm going to get a lawyer and talk to them and see if i have a shot or not. For the first time we were away from all of the issues which had previously caused us problems. I can only share, on the few moments he has done this, it make a WORLD of difference to my ability to cope with it as his spouse. Living with a husband or wife who has bipolar disorder can be difficult. 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